You’ve inspired me to start something new and fresh!
Because of your inspiration I’ve been working super hard for weeks on creating a place where we can further build community.
I wanted a space dedicated to providing you with valuable information and an even better platform for you to interact with me and other naturalistas and ladies aspiring for healthy hair and a healthy love of self.
In this video I share my natural hair journey including why I went natural, some of my setbacks and my victories. I also come clean about my intentions with this site and I think you’re gonna like them!
Are you struggling with making the choice to go natural? Do you need encouragement to love what you’ve got (even if you don’t want to go natural)? Or, are you just curious to see what this site is all about? Then this video is most certainly for you!
Resources Mentioned In This Video
- Passion Fruit Vineyard (for my cute skirt)
Transcript of This Video
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Hey ladies! My name is Cassandre from CassandreBeccai.com. In this video, I’m going to show to you my natural hair story.
But, before we go there, I have to share with you what I’m wearing today. I’m wearing this really cute paper bag skirt. Isn’t this so cute? I know!
I got it from a friend of mine from the Passion Fruit Vineyard. You can go check her out. Her name is Asha. She makes these beautiful skirts, and I’m definitely a fan. But, anyway, enough of that.
My Natural Hair Story
I’m just going to tell you about my story and how I got to where I am in my natural journey right now. I was just thinking about the fact that I’ve been natural for seven years now. It was just my birthday this past week, and I’m just thinking that it’s been seven years. I can’t even believe it.
I was Relaxed for Ten Years!
But, when I first started, it was really hard. I was relaxed for about maybe ten years, or so, and I decided that I want to go natural not because I wanted to start a movement, or like black power or anything like that, but because I realized the relaxers were giving me headaches.
Every time I had a relaxer, my scalp would hurt. I would get a headache. I started to take it as a sign from above that there’s something wrong with this process. For the sake of not losing all of my hair, I didn’t lose any hair from those headaches, but I realized it wasn’t a good sign, so I’m definitely not going to have myself go bald, so I decided that December, seven years ago, I think, that I was going to go natural.
Going Natural and Building Confidence
When I started going natural, a lot of what I did was basically, as my roots were growing out, I would braid my roots and do whatever to my ends. I did a lot of curly hairstyles. I did a lot of crimped hairstyles. I just had so much fun during that transition stage.
But, when it was time for me to cut my hair, that’s when people began to share their, I think they were already probably being discussed for my choice, there were women and friends of mine, who were coming up to me asking me why I was doing that. I have such a nice hair.
At the time, I didn’t have an issue with relaxers. Most of the time my hair grew quite a bit, and at that time, my hair was at its longest length. It was definitely inching towards mid-back length.
People were really confused as they saw my hair, my relaxed hair being cut away, and my roots being more and more natural. I even remembered this one time. I was going to work, my mom stood by the door and was like, “What are you doing?” She was just like, “You don’t look good.”
But, even in spite of that, I was like, “You know what? I really think this is the best choice for me.” I don’t really even know what gave me the encouragement or the empowerment to do it because of course, it was during the time when the natural hair movement wasn’t really that much of a movement. I mean, if you’re natural, you probably did it because you were weird, or maybe you lived a lifestyle where maybe you’re a mountainous kind of person, and you’re really into that natural… I don’t know.
A Better Option
Well, anyway, definitely, it wasn’t me. I wasn’t doing this because I was following anyone or because I was an extremist that I had to be a supernatural person. I was doing it because I felt like this would be a better option for me right now.
So, as I grew my hair out, I began to really, really love it. Mind you, like I had a little ‘fro by the time I finally cut off all my relaxed ends, I probably had maybe two to three inches of hair, and you can imagine, Afro-textured hair doesn’t really show it’s lengths, so it’s probably like really small.
But, I did a lot of twist outs. I twisted my hair a lot. As it grew, I began to really love it, and I realized that my confidence just grew as my hair grew out more because I was beginning to learn how to take care of it, how to make it look beautiful, and I was getting compliments left and right even at that short length because I was just learning how to love myself, how to make it beautiful, and captivating even to others who have no idea what being natural is like.
When I finally came to school in Michigan, I was maybe, two or three years natural, less than three years actually, and I had got the hang of this natural thing. I was washing my hair once a week, but nothing too deep. But, my hair was growing. It was doing fine.
But, the hard water in Michigan totally killed my hair. I remember being warned when I stepped foot on campus that the water is going to destroy my hair. But, I was kind of like, “Lo-de-lu-de-lu!” You know, like not really serious about life, but a year later, I realized it was true.
I couldn’t comb through my hair, not that I comb through it that much anyway, but, I mean, when it was time for me to style, it became this big old burden because it felt like a big old piece of tumbleweed. It was really really bad, and I literally just began to say, “Okay, you know what? I really need some solutions here,” and I began to pray about my hair.
Yes, Praying Helps!
Maybe you guys don’t think praying about hair makes sense, but at the time, I was very desperate, and I knew that somehow, this praying thing was going to definitely help somehow.
I began to pray, and I was like, “Oh God! Please help me here. My hair is dying, and I feel like I can’t do anything.” So, I got into just looking into some natural alternatives, and finding ways to take care of my hair in spite of the water.
At this time, I still was kind of like using the water a little bit, but I was mixing stuff out to create something to help my hair.
Seven Years Later, It’s All Natural!
Now, seven years later, my hair is probably the healthiest it’s ever been even though I still struggle with lots, and lots, and lots of different kinds of issues.
Sometimes, I have a whole bunch of split ends. Sometimes my hair is doing the shedding thing, but I realize I feel happy. I feel like this is the best thing I could have done for myself, not only because I know that my hair is beautiful, but I realize now that embracing my natural really taught me how to love how to I am, who I am, what grows out of my scalp is part of me, and it’s okay. It has also taught others around me to appreciate the things that make me, me.
I’m really glad that you’ve joined me on my channel. I’m just going to really just share with you the things that I’ve learned being natural, some of my secrets to natural hair success, some of my recipes I’m going to share with you.
I’m going to share with you how to trim your hair, and I really just want to equip you and give you an opportunity to get to where I am. I also realize that I don’t have all the answers, so I really want you to chime in, too because I’m still learning. Like I told you I’m constantly learning more or trying to get my hair to its healthiest it can possibly be, and I know that there are so many of you watching me even now that know more than me.
I would love for you to just communicate and share, and let’s spread the community to encourage one another to love our natural– not just our natural hair, but who we are and who we’re made to be.
Thank you so much for watching this video. If you have any questions, please leave it in the comment box down here, and I will definitely get back to you. I would love to hear your questions. I would love to hear what you’re interested in seeing from me.
You can also find more videos like this in my blog post, and other stuff that I talk about on cassandrebeccai.com.
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